A little talk about manners

I am at my boiling point with rude people. In America we are so obsessed with individuality, and the personal experience that we seem to forget about the rest of society. We push and shove our way through life trying to know ourselves while treating everyone around us like crap. there are so many issues with how rude we are, that there would not be enough time to cover it in one blog. You would get sick of reading this, trust me. So instead I'm going to talk about specific issues that I find to be rude.

Today's issue: Your children!

Everyone is proud of their children, it's a given. You love them, think they are so smart, and are amazed at every new step they make in their development. It's normal to want to encourage your child in everything they do, from learning to eat solid food, walking, and learning to eat. Your toddler is the most important thing in your world. It's not, in the other hand the most important thing in my world. That means it's your job to provide your child with entertainment while at the doctors office, restaurants, super markets ect ect ect not mine, or the place you are going to (unless of course it's a children focused place.) Your focus should be your children, not the rest of the world. Pack a toy, or book for your child to play with to keep them entertained, and don't expect everywhere to have a play area.

I also understand that you are really excited with your little child's new found ability to strut their stuff. Wobbly little feet taking one step at a time, grasping at your fingers for support. I understand your want to encourage that motor skill, and teach them. The middle of the olive garden where servers are running from kitchen to tables with steaming hot soup on giant trays supported by one hand only, is not the right place to teach your child how to walk! Not only that, but the other people in the area do not want tiny little germ filled hands running up to their table and asking questions or grabbing bread sticks. If you want a play ground you can eat at, go to Chuck-E-Cheese, not an adult centered restaurant. It's okay to have your kid at a casual dining restaurant, but for the sake of being decent responsible parents who don't want to skin graft their child's face back on, pick them up when on the restaurant floor!

Okay, I' done with my rant for today. Enjoy!

The fruit of my garden, and in my life

I planted a garden a while back, and now I’m watching it grow. Patiently watching it grow. Daily I go out and look at them, and it seemed as noting was happening. Nothing sprouted, and some of the plants looked like they were shriveling instead. Leaves towards the bottom starting to brown and die off slowly, and plants shriveled back towards the earth. Patiently I tended the garden, pulling out the weeds that tried to choke them, and clipping dead leaves, while waiting some more. We are of course of the generation of intent gratification, “generation now” so to speak. The type of people who sign up for services and expect same day activation, schedule a payment on line and have their mortgage paid by tomorrow, and in an instant can send a correspondence to a friend halfway around the world, and have it in sitting in their lap(top). Our culture is that of instant gratification, and expects results quickly. From ordering our food through speaker boxes and never leaving our car, to the ads on the internet that promise we will drop a dress size in a week, we are always looking to get results and revel in instant fruit of our not so laborious labor. Gardening though, is not so expedient.

When the garden is first planted, especially if you sew your own seeds, it seems like nothing happens, or worse the leaves that are on the surface are dying! But under the soil, the plant is adjusting to the changes in their new environment; the roots are weaving their way down into the earth, and establishing a foundation to grow on. Week after week a person can look for superficial changes, signs that the plant is really different, really changing, but they will find nothing. Finally about a month of watching and tending, the plant, they will start to grow. First signs of new green leaves with sprout, new buds will emerge from the ground and everything will start stretching towards the light of the sun. The plant at this point is still not producing any flower, or fruit. It is just simply growing, gaining height and surface area, still weaving its roots through the soil below. Fruit, even in an established plant comes later in life, after a season of growing.

We are often times like my garden, planting new things in our lives, and expecting them to instantly start producing fruit, some times looking as soon as the next day to enjoy the benefits of our labor. Whether it be establishing a new exercise program, and jumping on the scale the next day seeking weight loss results, or planting new habits in our lives and expecting instantly to stick with them, life just doesn’t work that fast. Anything that is worth bearing fruit takes time to establish itself in our lives. As long as we tend to it though, some times pulling out things that are choking it, or clipping off the things that are sucking life out of it, it will grow. We just have to be patient. I only hope that I can extend the same grace I give my garden, to myself, and the people around me.

Credit Scores- There is just no pleasing them.

Things that are affecting my score-

Lenght of my Credit History- What the heck do you expect? I can't get a good card until I have decent credit, I can't get decent credit until I have decent credit history. By the time I figured out this cat and mouse game I was going on twenty, meaning I don't have a soild seven years of credit history.

Not using my cards- Seriously? It's like if you use them it's a problem because you are using them, if you don't use them it's a problem because you arn't using them. I am pretty sure these guys must be ran by the credit card companies like everything else because this sounds like a load of junk!

Missed payment- One late payment 5 years ago because a bill got lost in the mail. After this happened, and the card company was impossible to deal with, they went out of business (Chances are because they are impossible to deal with?) I never missed the payment, it was just late. Not the new company who owns them will not look into the matter because lets face it, they have a lot of other junk to sort out.

So these are the things that are standing between me, and the credit score of my dreams, and I am highly frustrated at that. Seriously, I've worked hard for the credit score I have! I MEAN REALLY HARD! I had no idea that not using my credit cards was going to be a problem? Can't they just go on me paying my bill for the past 6 years with out any problems, and that people thought I was stable enough for a mortgage???

Blah, this system really should be over hauled.